LONG DISTANCE LOVE TIPS

Long distance relationships have always had the stigma that they don't work. "Having a successful, long distance relationship is possible," It's important that you both understand what's involved and that you're dedicated to working at communicating.

Long distance relationships: Make 'em work!
If you're considering a long distance relationship or fall into one without much of a choice, don't worry -- there's help on the way.

Communicate every day.
One of the most important cornerstones in a successful long-term relationship is the ability to communicate effectively: that is, in a way that is clear, honest, open, patient and — most of all — constructive. Anyone who’s ever been in a long-term relationship could tell you that it’s not always easy! However, communication is at the basis of every interaction you will ever have with your partner: It’s not just in what you say and how you say it. It’s your eye contact, your facial expressions, and your body language. Even silence can speak multitudes.

Consider using Skype video chat calls every day or as often as possible, text messaging, phone calls and email every day. It is important to maintain contact and to be in each others daily lives as much as possible.

Work on your trust issues.
Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between a man and a woman.  Communication and trust. “Talk often about how you feel toward one another, remember to trust each other until there is reason not to, and keep your suspicions out of the relationship.”

Make it to important events.
“One of the reasons we commit to a long-term relationship is to have someone there to share the good and bad times with us,” Being there for special celebrations and engagements is an important way to support your partner and relationship.

 See each other regularly.
It’s essential to make visiting each other a priority. Again, set clear expectations about how often you’ll visit each other and who’ll visit whom.

Don't take things (too) personally.
"Set aside a certain time, every day, to connect with each other."
Things will get in the way so be prepared. Since you and your partner live separately, odds are you'll maintain your lives in your own cities (as you probably should). It will help your relationship if you remain understanding and flexible.

"Changes in plans come up, work gets in the way and family emergencies emerge as a normal part of life. If your partner cancels a trip, do not take it personally and make a huge deal over the change (unless it becomes a regular pattern of behavior),"Remember that you accepted the relationship as it is and must adjust to last minute cancellations as part of the deal."